There was an interesting article in The Daily Mail last Thursday 14th Sept by Ben Spencer and Sophie Borland.
After 12 months sexual apathy among women quadruples, researchers at Southampton University discovered. The feeling however is one sided. Men are interested in sex no matter how long they have been in the relationship. The researchers whose work was published in the BMJ Open, found openly talking about sex could help. For women in particular, the quality and length of relationship and communication with their partners are important in their experience of sexual interest.
In my work as a sexual relationship therapist, I have found that couples often wait until the realtionship is in real difficulties before they seek help. The sexual relationship and the general relationship tend to mirror each other. Therapy can help to make sense of what is happening. Couples can get into a cycle of the one who wants sex becoming upset and angry and the one who is more apathetic feeling unable to be close because of their partners anger.